Trauma and attachment therapy
Trauma-informed online therapy for old patterns that keep surfacing in present relationships.
Sometimes the problem is not only what is happening now. It is what the present moment touches. A delayed message, a change in tone, criticism, distance, inconsistency, conflict or emotional withdrawal can activate something older and far more powerful than the moment itself.
Attachment therapy looks at those reactions with clarity rather than shame, so there is more room for choice.
- Trauma-informed therapy
- Attachment-aware relationship work
- Online in English for UK and international clients
- For individuals affected by relational triggers
This is for you if your reactions feel bigger, faster or more painful than the moment seems to explain.
You may panic, shut down, cling, overexplain, go numb, lose trust quickly, or feel abandoned by small shifts in closeness. On the surface, it can look like overreacting.
In reality, there is often a deeper emotional logic driving it.
Common patterns
- I know I am reacting strongly, but I cannot stop.
- I feel abandoned quickly, even when part of me knows it sounds extreme.
- I shut down when things become emotionally intense.
- My body reacts before my mind can catch up.
- Old pain keeps showing up in new relationships.
- I want closeness, but I do not feel steady inside it.
Understand the reaction before trying to change it.
Hover or tab through each card to see how the work meets it.
My body reacts before my mind can catch up.
Hover or focus to readYour system learned to move fast to keep you safe. We slow it down with regulation, so reflection has room to arrive.
Individual therapyI feel abandoned quickly, even when it sounds extreme.
Hover or focus to readYou are not reacting only to now. You may be reacting to every time before when now ended badly. That makes sense, and it can change.
Attachment stylesOld pain keeps showing up in new relationships.
Hover or focus to readPatterns repeat because they once protected you. We link present reactions to history without increasing self-blame.
Relationship anxietyUnderstand the reaction before trying to change it.
This work is not about labelling you as broken, dramatic, needy or too much. It is about understanding what your system learned to do in order to survive inconsistency, absence, criticism, emotional unpredictability or relational danger.
We begin to map the pattern: what triggers you, what meaning your system gives the trigger, what emotional state takes over, what you then do to protect yourself, and what that protection costs you.
How therapy works
- 01
Understand the trigger pattern.
- 02
Name what the reaction is protecting.
- 03
Build regulation and reflective space.
- 04
Link present reactions to history without increasing self-blame.
- 05
Strengthen self-trust and relational steadiness.
Related pages
Common questions
Do I need to know my attachment style first?
No. Knowing that closeness, distance or emotional triggers affect you strongly is enough.
Can trauma and attachment work be done online?
Yes, when paced carefully and when online work is clinically appropriate.
Is this general anxiety therapy?
Not exactly. This page is for distress strongly tied to attachment wounds, relational triggers, inconsistency and repeating relationship pain.
You are not too much. Your system may be carrying too much.
This work is not about blaming the past for everything. It is about understanding what still lives in the present and helping you respond with more steadiness and freedom.
Start with a free 15 to 20 minute consultationBetween sessions, you may find my resources and worksheets helpful.