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Meet your therapist

Hello, I’m
Kita Tabachka.

Kita Tabachka sitting in an orange armchair in her therapy room.

I’m glad you’ve taken a moment to get to know me.

I’m a BACP-registered therapist working online with individuals and couples. I help people explore relationship difficulties, anxiety and the changes that come with building a life in another country.

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15–20 minutes online · A chance to meet and ask questions

View my BACP registration: 409623 ↗

The person behind the therapist

My route into therapy.

People have always been where my attention goes.

I did not come to therapy in a straight line. I studied International Relations, worked at the Ministry of Finance in Bulgaria, moved to the UK and started again from zero.

I built a career in finance, business, strategy and leadership before changing direction at 35 into the work that has always had my heart: people.

That history matters in the therapy room. I understand pressure, responsibility, ambition, reinvention, anxiety and what it costs to look capable while privately feeling lost, tired or unsure where you belong.

Loss has shaped me too. Losing my sister, and watching my mother carry her own struggles, made me deeply attentive to how families move around pain, and how loss can be many things: a person, a country, a role, a relationship, a future, or a version of yourself.

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We begin with what is happening in your life.

In the therapy room

Room to talk.
Someone thinking with you.

You might start with an argument from yesterday, a worry that keeps returning or a change you are finding difficult. We can take time to find the words.

I listen, ask questions and share what I notice. Together we look at patterns in your relationships and how past experiences may be affecting you now.

You can tell me when something does not fit. We talk about what you want to change and return to how the work is feeling for you.

Choose a way to begin

Therapy that fits the conversation you need.

Meet with me individually, come together as a couple, or explore support through writing.

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Individual therapy

£70per 50-minute online session

Space to explore anxiety, relationships, grief, self-doubt or feeling unsettled after a move.

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Couples therapy

£100per 70-minute online session

Time for both of you to understand recurring arguments, emotional distance or difficulties with trust.

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Both partners attend the introductory consultation.

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Email therapy

£50per week · one personal written reply

Write at your own pace and receive a thoughtful reply from me through Carepatron on an agreed weekly day.

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Billed weekly. Four weeks cost £200. Suitability and terms agreed before payment.

Your first conversation

What happens when you get in touch?

  1. We meet online.The free 15–20 minute consultation gives us time to hear what brings you here and for you to ask questions.
  2. We discuss what you need.We talk about the support you are looking for, practical arrangements and whether working together feels suitable.
  3. You decide whether to begin.If we agree to go ahead, we arrange the first session and discuss confidentiality, fees and the way we will work.

For couples, we begin with a consultation together. My assessment process includes an individual appointment with each partner before ongoing couples sessions. I explain confidentiality and my no-secrets policy before those individual appointments.

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Zara, my Labrador, and Linda, my rescue dog from Bosnia.

A little more of my world

Zara and Linda.

Dogs have been an important part of my life. This is Zara and Linda, a familiar part of the home behind my online practice.

Getting to know a therapist includes a sense of the person you will be talking to. You are welcome to ask me about my experience and how I work.

Before we meet

Questions you may have.

What kind of therapist are you?

I am a BACP-registered integrative therapist. My work draws on relational, attachment-aware and trauma-informed approaches. My couples work is Gottman-informed. We consider what is happening now alongside the experiences and patterns that may be shaping it.

Can I come on my own to talk about my relationship?

Yes. Individual therapy can help you explore your feelings, choices and relationship patterns. Your partner does not need to attend. Couples therapy is a separate format in which both partners take part.

Do you offer therapy in English and Bulgarian?

Yes. I offer online sessions in English and Bulgarian. We can discuss your preferred language when you get in touch.

Can I work with you from another country?

I work online with UK and international clients where this is clinically appropriate and legally and ethically possible. Before we begin, we check your location, time zone and whether I can offer suitable support.

What if I am unsure whether we are a good fit?

The free 15–20 minute consultation gives you a chance to ask questions and experience a conversation with me. We discuss what brings you here and whether my way of working feels right for you. There is no obligation to book ongoing sessions.

Let’s meet

Tell me a little about what brings you here.

A first conversation can help you decide whether you would like to work with me. There is no obligation to book ongoing sessions.

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Free 15–20 minute consultation · Online

Prefer to begin in writing? Explore email therapy.

Reading for men

What men search for at 2am, answered by a therapist.

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Reading for women

What women ask at the kitchen table, answered by a therapist.

For the marriage which went quiet, the load nobody sees, the affair, the baby years, and the question of whether to stay.

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