Do I have to decide whether to stay right now?

A smaller question might be: “What needs to be different before I can consider what comes next?” Your answer could involve clarity about current contact, practical arrangements, time to think or a boundary you need respected.

This is not a recommendation to wait indefinitely. It is permission to distinguish a decision about today from a decision about the rest of your life.

Write down what you would need to observe, rather than only what you hope to feel. “Be more trustworthy” is broad. A specific agreement about contact or sharing relevant information is easier to discuss and review.

You are not responsible for making another person keep an agreement. A private worksheet can help you record what you need and what actually happens without turning it into a debate.

Can We Get Past This? includes tools for considering repair, more time or separation. The Uncertainty Map helps you lay out options and the fears attached to them. Neither book requires reconciliation, forgiveness or shared participation.

Shared exercises are only appropriate where taking part is safe and voluntary. If you are being threatened, controlled or harmed, seek appropriate individual support rather than relying on a couples workbook.

Explore the PDF workbook bundle for £19.99. Both complete books and both fillable worksheet companions are included. Each book is also available separately for £14.99.