Rome · Online support in English
An English-speaking therapist for people in Rome
If you moved to Rome for your partner, you may know their friends, their family and their routines before you have built your own. Therapy can help you examine what feels missing, what you want to change and how to speak about it.
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When you feel like a guest in your own life
You might have agreed to the move and still dislike how dependent it has made you. Asking your partner to explain an email, organise an appointment or include you in a conversation can become tiring. So can being the person who is always expected to know the answer.
We can separate the practical difficulty from what happens between you. Needing help with Italian is one issue. Being spoken over, excluded from decisions or unable to disagree is another. It matters that we do not mistake one for the other.
My service is online from the UK, with appointments for people in Rome subject to location and suitability checks. For the wider service and concerns unrelated to moving for a partner, see English-speaking therapy for Italy.
Where the difficulty shows up
Every weekend is already decided.
Family visits and social plans may feel automatic to one partner and compulsory to the other. We can work with the actual decision: how much notice you need, what you each want and whether saying no is possible.
My partner explains me to everyone.
Help with a language can be useful. It can also become frustrating if someone answers before you have had time to speak. A useful starting point is agreeing when you want help and when you want room to try.
I know people, but I have no one to call.
A busy week is different from a friendship where you can be honest. We can look at which connections are yours, what you miss about old friendships and what makes a new connection difficult.
I cannot tell whether I want to leave Rome or the relationship.
These can become tangled questions. We can explore each separately without assuming that changing country will resolve the relationship, or that staying proves commitment.
These are possible situations, not claims about Roman families or accounts of clients.
What you could bring to a first session
You could start with a recent family lunch, a difficult evening after work or a decision you felt unable to influence. We would look closely at what happened, what you understood, what you said and what remained unsaid.
For example, you might want to find a way to say: I want time with your family, and I also need us to agree our plans together. Can we leave one afternoon this weekend open? This is an example to adapt, not a script that guarantees a particular response.
If both of you come, each gets room to explain their experience. I will not assume that the local partner has more power in every part of the relationship, or that the person who moved is always the one who needs to change.
Come on your own or enquire together
Individual therapy can give you space to think about loneliness, resentment, anxiety or your own next steps. Couples therapy can focus on the agreements and conversations you struggle to have together.
If your partner does not want therapy, you can still seek support for yourself. If you feel afraid of their response to an honest conversation, tell me privately at enquiry. We need to consider safety and the right kind of support before joint work.
I am Kita Tabachka, a Bulgarian-born, UK-based BACP-registered relational therapist. My work includes individuals and couples living abroad. You can read about my approach and check my BACP directory profile.
We start with a free 15–20 minute consultation. You can tell me what brings you, ask questions and decide whether you would like to continue. We discuss your needs, the country you will attend from, privacy and available appointments before agreeing to work together.
For couples work, both partners attend the consultation. If we begin, I usually meet each of you individually to understand your background before joint sessions. We agree the purpose, fees and confidentiality arrangements for those meetings first.
Individual therapy: £70 for 50 minutes.
Couples therapy: £100 for 70 minutes, per couple.
Sessions are online through Carepatron. Read the fees and process.
Online sessions from Rome
I work online from the UK. I do not have a clinic in your city. Before accepting an appointment, I check your location, professional arrangements and whether this service fits your needs. Tell me before travelling or moving country so we can review whether the work can continue. Read how therapy across borders is assessed.
You need a private place to speak, a suitable device and a reliable connection. We agree confidentiality and its limits before starting. Appointment availability is confirmed in your local time.
Meetings take place through Carepatron. You can ask about practical arrangements during the consultation before committing to a paid appointment. For another route, weekly written counselling offers one personal reply for £50 where suitable.
Questions you may have
Do you have a therapy office in Rome?
No. I work online from the UK. This page is for people in Rome enquiring about that service, not a local clinic.
Do I need to have moved to Rome for a partner?
No. That situation is explored here because it can change independence and belonging. You can also enquire about anxiety, loneliness, grief or other relationship difficulties.
Can you help if my partner is Italian and I am not?
We can explore how language, family expectations and the move affect your particular relationship. Couples sessions are in English, so both partners need to be able to participate comfortably.
Will therapy tell me whether to stay in Rome?
No. We can examine what matters to you, the difficulties you face and the options available. Decisions about your relationship and where to live remain yours.
What are the fees?
Individual therapy costs £70 for 50 minutes. Couples therapy costs £100 for 70 minutes per couple. A free 15–20 minute consultation comes first, with location and suitability checks.
