Online relationship therapy for individuals, couples and expats
Therapy for the private life behind love, home and everything that looks fine.
I work online in English with individuals and couples when the outside story is too simple for what is happening inside.
You may be carrying relationship anxiety, emotional exhaustion, betrayal, attachment pain, a relationship that keeps hurting, or the quiet cost of starting again in another country.
This is therapy for emotionally complicated lives. Warm, direct, structured and human. We look at the pattern underneath the obvious problem, without turning your story into a slogan or a diagnosis.
- BACP registered
- Individuals and couples
- Online in English
- UK and international clients
- Relationship anxiety, attachment and expat life
The outside story is rarely the whole truth.
Some people arrive because the relationship has become painful. Some arrive because anxiety has made love feel impossible to trust. Some arrive after betrayal, grief, burnout, relocation, or the slow realisation that they are functioning but not really okay.
Therapy begins by taking the private version seriously. Not the polished version. Not the version that makes sense in two neat sentences. The real one.
I look capable, but I feel lost inside.
Hover or focus to readCapable is a survival skill, not a feeling. We make room for the part of you that has been managing alone, and stop asking it to keep performing for everyone.
Held in individual therapyI keep overthinking my relationship.
Hover or focus to readOverthinking is your nervous system trying to make love safe by predicting it. We work with the fear underneath, not only the thoughts sitting on top of it.
Held in relationship anxiety therapyWe love each other, but we keep hurting each other.
Hover or focus to readMost couples are not really fighting about the dishes. We slow the loop down enough to see what each of you is protecting, before the damage is done.
Held in couples therapyI moved abroad and no longer feel like myself.
Hover or focus to readRelocation can cost you a role, a language, a version of you that everyone recognised. That loss is real, and it is something we can work with rather than wait out.
Held in expat therapyTrust has been damaged and I cannot settle.
Hover or focus to readAfter betrayal the body stays on watch long after the mind wants to move on. Trust repair is slow, honest work, not a decision to simply get over it.
Held in trust & betrayal therapyI need to understand why this keeps repeating.
Hover or focus to readPatterns repeat because they once protected you. We trace where this began, so the choice can finally belong to the adult you are now.
Held in trauma & attachment therapyFind the right starting point
Different doors into the same careful work. Not sure which fits? A short consultation is the easiest way to find out.
Individual Therapy
For anxiety, burnout, self-doubt, emotional overload, grief, attachment pain and relationship-related distress.
ExploreRelationship Anxiety Therapy
For overthinking, reassurance seeking, fear of abandonment, relationship doubt and the exhaustion of trying to feel certain.
ExploreCouples Therapy
For recurring conflict, emotional distance, communication breakdown, resentment, betrayal and repair.
ExploreExpat Therapy
For loneliness, identity loss, relocation grief, culture strain and the emotional cost of life across borders.
ExploreTrailing Partner Support
For identity loss, resentment, dependence shifts and the guilt of struggling with a life that looks good on paper.
ExploreTrust Issues & Betrayal
For relationship rupture, secrecy, betrayal trauma, hypervigilance and the hard work of trust repair.
ExploreWeekly Guidance
Between-sessions support by message through Carepatron. You write when you need to; I reply once or twice a week with guidance, reflections and practical tools. Not live sessions, and not crisis support.
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Meet Kita Tabachka
Hi, I'm Kita. I'm glad you've taken a moment to get to know me.
I did not come to therapy in a straight line. I studied International Relations, worked at the Ministry of Finance in Bulgaria, moved to the UK and started again from zero. I built a career in finance, business, strategy and leadership before changing direction at 35 into the work that has always had my heart: people.
That history matters in the therapy room. I understand pressure, responsibility, ambition, reinvention, anxiety and what it costs to look capable while privately feeling lost, tired or unsure where you belong.
Loss has shaped me too. Losing my sister, and watching my mother carry her own struggles, made me deeply attentive to how families move around pain, and how loss can be many things: a person, a country, a role, a relationship, a future, or a version of yourself.
People have always been where my attention goes.
More about me
Meet Zara and Linda
Zara and Linda are my two very important colleagues.
Zara is my 16-year-old Labrador. I got her in London many years ago, and she has been running the house ever since. She is gentle, funny, cheeky and still somehow manages to look innocent even when she clearly knows exactly what she is doing.
Linda is 10 and came all the way from Bosnia to the UK five years ago. She is adopted, deeply loved, and proof that rescue dogs do not just need a home. They bring something beautiful into yours.
Clients often notice them, ask about them and smile when they appear in the background. Sometimes I think they come for therapy, but secretly stay for the dogs.
Rescuing a dog is not only about saving them. Very often, they save something in us too.
Warm does not mean vague.
I work with emotional material directly, but without making it theatrical. In individual therapy, we look at what anxiety, shutdown, resentment, grief, attachment pain or self-doubt has been trying to manage for you. In couples therapy, we look at the moment the relationship stops being a conversation and becomes protection. The work is careful, but not passive. Human, but not fluffy. Structured, but not cold.
Online therapy for lives lived across countries, cultures and versions of self.
Online therapy can be especially useful when life is internationally stretched. Many clients come because they are living abroad, moving often, navigating long-distance relationships, following a partner's career, or trying to find support in English while living somewhere that no longer feels fully like home.
I work online in English with UK and international clients where online therapy is clinically appropriate and legally and ethically possible. Country and time zone should be checked before beginning.
Explore expat therapy- ·People who have moved
Following work, study, a partner, or a fresh start, and quietly grieving what was left behind.
- ·Couples in two countries
Holding a relationship together across distance, time zones and different cultural expectations.
- ·Internationally mobile lives
People who feel capable everywhere and at home nowhere, looking for support in English.
Real words from real clients.
Verified five-star reviews from individuals and couples I have worked with online, across relationship anxiety, couples therapy and life across borders.
Gentle reads for complicated feelings
What is relationship anxiety? The panic of needing someone who can hurt you
A therapist on reassurance seeking, anxious attachment, attachment wounds and why love can feel like a threat.
Read the articleWhy do I overthink my relationship?
The difference between anxiety and intuition, and how reassurance can quietly keep the loop alive.
ReadAttachment styles in relationships
How anxious, avoidant and secure patterns shape the way we reach for, and retreat from, the people we love.
ReadClear fees, clear process.
The first step is a short consultation, not a commitment to long-term therapy. We briefly look at what brings you here, whether individual or couples work fits best, and whether this feels like the right place to begin.
Free consultation
Individual therapy
Couples therapy
Weekly guidance
Common questions
Do you work with individuals as well as couples?
Yes. My work is relationship-focused, but not couples-only. Many clients come individually for anxiety, attachment pain, betrayal, self-trust, burnout, relocation strain or relationship overthinking.
Do you work with clients outside the UK?
Yes, online in English where this is clinically appropriate and legally and ethically possible.
What happens in the consultation?
We speak briefly about what is bringing you here, how I work, and whether beginning together feels right.
Between sessions, you may find my resources and worksheets helpful.
You do not need to arrive with the right words.
You may know exactly what is wrong, or you may only know that something important feels heavier than it should. Either is enough for a first conversation.
Start with a free 15 to 20 minute consultation