# Kita Tabachka Therapy

> Kita Tabachka is a Bulgarian-born, BACP-registered relational therapist (registration 409623) based in Poole, Dorset, UK, working entirely online in English with individuals and couples across the UK and abroad. Specialisms: relationship anxiety, couples therapy (Gottman-trained), expat and cross-cultural relationships, trauma and attachment, trust and betrayal, therapy for men (anger, anxiety, low self-esteem, past domestic abuse). Free 20-minute consultation; individual sessions £70 (50 min), couples £100 (70 min). Contact: info@kitatabachkatherapy.com, WhatsApp +44 7557 387385. BACP profile: https://www.bacp.co.uk/therapists/409623/kita-tabachka/

## Services
- [Online Therapy for Men](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/therapy-for-men/): Online counselling for men: anxiety, anger, relationships and life abroad. Kita Tabachka, BACP registered. £70 for 50 minutes. Free consultation.
- [Online Therapy Abroad: Suitability & Safety](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/online-therapy-abroad-suitability/): How I assess whether online therapy across borders is right and clinically safe for you, including time zones, risk and local support. A therapist guide.
- [Therapy for Relationship Crisis Abroad](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/relationship-crisis-abroad/): Online therapy for couples and individuals in relationship crisis abroad: betrayal, separation, breakdown. BACP-registered. Free consultation.
- [Betrayal Trauma Therapy Abroad](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/betrayal-trauma-therapy-abroad/): Online therapy for betrayal trauma abroad: hypervigilance, obsessive checking, shame and lost self-trust. BACP-registered, in English, wherever you live.
- [Separation Therapy for Expats Living Abroad](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/separation-therapy-for-expats/): Online support when a relationship ends far from home. Therapy for the grief, fear and identity loss of separating abroad, in English, wherever you are.
- [Infidelity Therapy for Expats](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/infidelity-therapy-for-expats/): Online therapy after an affair, for expats and international couples. Recover trust and make sense of betrayal abroad. BACP-registered.
- [Am I Overthinking My Relationship?](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/why-do-i-overthink-my-relationship/): Am I overthinking my relationship, or is something wrong? A therapist on the overthinking loop, relationship anxiety, and what actually quiets it.
- [Relationship Anxiety Definition & Signs](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/what-is-relationship-anxiety/): A clear relationship anxiety definition from a relational therapist: what it is, the signs, why love can feel like a threat, and what actually helps.
- [Betrayal Trauma Therapy & Trust Repair](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/trust-issues-betrayal-therapy/): Betrayal trauma therapy and trust repair support for secrecy, affairs, lying, rupture and relationship shock. Online in English for individuals and couples.
- [Trust Repair After Betrayal Abroad](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/trust-betrayal-rupture-abroad/): Resources on betrayal, trust repair, secrecy, emotional shock and relationship rupture when international life or relocation makes the injury more complex.
- [Trauma & Attachment Therapy Online](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/trauma-attachment-therapy/): Online trauma and attachment therapy with a BACP-registered therapist. For attachment wounds, oversized reactions and old patterns, including expats abroad.
- [Trailing Partner Therapy & Support](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/trailing-partner-support/): Therapy for trailing partners facing identity loss, resentment and isolation after relocating for a partner. BACP-registered. Free consultation.
- [Relationship Problems After Moving Abroad](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/relocation-relationship-reset/): Resources and therapy support for relationship problems after moving abroad, including resentment, communication strain, identity shifts and emotional distance.
- [Relationship Anxiety Therapy Online](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/relationship-anxiety-therapy/): Online therapy for relationship anxiety: overthinking, reassurance-seeking and the fear of being too much. BACP-registered. Free consultation.
- [Online Couples Therapy for International Couples](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/online-couples-therapy-international-couples/): Online couples therapy across countries, cultures and time zones, in English. For international and cross-cultural couples. BACP-registered.
- [Long-Distance Relationships & Time Zones](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/long-distance-time-zone-relationships/): Resources for long-distance relationships, time-zone strain, emotional misattunement, intimacy pressure, trust issues and repair across distance.
- [Long-Distance Relationship Therapy](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/long-distance-relationship-therapy/): Long distance couples therapy online. For couples in different countries: reunions, trust, the countdown culture, and building a shared present across distance.
- [Online Individual Therapy](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/individual-therapy/): Individual therapy online with a BACP-registered therapist. For anxiety, self-esteem, anger and old patterns. Men and women, in the UK and abroad.
- [Identity Loss After Moving Abroad](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/identity-loss-after-relocation/): Why moving abroad can change identity, confidence, belonging and self-trust, with therapy support for expats and trailing partners.
- [How to Rebuild Trust After Betrayal Abroad](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/how-to-rebuild-trust-after-betrayal-abroad/): A therapy-informed article on rebuilding trust after betrayal abroad, including truth, accountability, transparency and emotional safety.
- [Online Therapy for Expats](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/expat-therapy/): Expat therapist and online counselling for expats. BACP-registered therapy for identity loss, loneliness and relationship strain abroad. English, no waitlist.
- [Cross-Cultural Couples Therapy Online](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/cross-cultural-couples-therapy/): Cross-cultural couples therapy and relationship counselling online. When love collides at the level of meaning: family, faith, language, money and belonging.
- [Online Couples Therapy, UK & Worldwide](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/couples-therapy/): Couples therapy and marriage counselling online with a BACP-registered therapist based in Poole. For conflict cycles, distance, trust and repair. UK and abroad.
- [Therapy for Communication Problems](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/communication-problems-in-relationships/): Communication problems in relationships: why talking stops, conflict resolution that works under pressure, and online therapy to change the cycle.
- [Attachment Styles in Relationships](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/attachment-styles-in-relationships/): A clear explanation of attachment styles in relationships, including anxious, avoidant, fearful avoidant patterns and when therapy may help.

## English-speaking therapy by city and country
- [English-Speaking Therapist, Sofia Bulgaria](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/english-speaking-therapist-sofia/): Online English-speaking therapist for expats in Sofia. Bulgarian-born, BACP-registered, working with IT and finance professionals far from home. No waiting list.
- [English-Speaking Therapist in Barcelona](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/english-speaking-therapist-barcelona/): Online English-speaking therapist for expats in Barcelona. BACP-registered support for anxiety, loneliness and relationship strain abroad. No waiting list.
- [English-Speaking Therapist in Zurich](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/english-speaking-therapist-zurich/): Online English-speaking therapist for expats in Zurich. BACP-registered support for loneliness, pressure and relationship strain abroad. No waiting list.
- [English-Speaking Therapist in Berlin](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/english-speaking-therapist-berlin/): Online English-speaking therapist for expats in Berlin. BACP-registered support for anxiety, loneliness and relationship strain abroad. No waiting list.
- [English-Speaking Therapist in Amsterdam](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/english-speaking-therapist-amsterdam/): Online English-speaking therapist for expats in Amsterdam. BACP-registered support for anxiety, loneliness and relationship strain abroad. No waitlist.
- [English-Speaking Therapist in Rome](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/english-speaking-therapist-rome/): Online English-speaking therapist for expats in Rome. BACP-registered support for anxiety, loneliness and relationship strain abroad. UK-trained, no waitlist.
- [English-Speaking Therapist in the UK](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/english-speaking-therapist-uk/): Online therapy in English for expats and internationals in the UK: anxiety, adjustment and relationship challenges. BACP-registered.
- [English-Speaking Therapist in Italy](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/english-speaking-therapist-italy/): Online therapy in English for expats in Rome, Milan and Italy: anxiety, loneliness and relationship strain abroad. BACP-registered.
- [English-Speaking Therapist in France](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/english-speaking-therapist-france/): Online therapy in English for expats in Paris and France: anxiety, isolation, stress and relationship strain abroad. BACP-registered.
- [English-Speaking Therapist in Athens](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/english-speaking-therapist-athens/): Online therapy in English for expats in Athens and Greece: anxiety, loneliness, identity and relationship challenges. BACP-registered.
- [English-Speaking Therapist in Singapore](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/english-speaking-therapist-singapore/): English-speaking therapist and counsellor for expats in Singapore. Online therapy for the posting cycle, shallow friendships and relationship strain.
- [English-Speaking Therapist in Riyadh](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/english-speaking-therapist-riyadh/): Online therapy in English for expats in Riyadh: anxiety, anger, loneliness, a marriage under strain or a family split across countries. BACP-registered. Free call.
- [English-Speaking Therapist in Dubai](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/english-speaking-therapist-dubai/): Online therapy in English for expats in Dubai: anxiety, loneliness, burnout and relationship strain abroad. BACP-registered. Free consultation.

## Journal (clinical essays)
- [My Husband Does Not Love Me Any More: What Now?](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/my-husband-doesnt-love-me-anymore/): Feel like your husband does not love you any more? What the distance usually means, the signs worth taking seriously, and the one conversation to have first.
- [My Husband Cheated on Me: How Do I Move Forward?](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/my-husband-cheated-on-me/): Your husband cheated. What to do in the first weeks, why you are not to blame, the questions worth asking, and how to decide whether to stay. A therapist.
- [Lonely in My Marriage: Why It Happens and What Helps](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/lonely-in-my-marriage/): Feeling lonely in your marriage? Why loneliness grows inside long relationships, the signs it has become serious, and how couples find each other again.
- [The Mental Load in Marriage: Why I Do Everything](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/mental-load-in-marriage/): The mental load explained: why you carry the planning, remembering and worrying at home, why it breeds resentment, and how to hand it over for real.
- [My Husband Does Not Want Sex: What It Means](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/my-husband-doesnt-want-sex/): When your husband does not want sex: why men lose desire more often than people think, what it usually means, and how to talk about it without blame.
- [Should I Divorce My Husband? Questions to Ask First](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/should-i-divorce-my-husband/): Should you divorce your husband? Six questions to answer honestly first, the difference between an unhappy marriage and a harmful one, and how to decide.
- [Marriage Problems After a Baby: Why It Happens](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/marriage-problems-after-baby/): Marriage problems after a baby are common. Why couples drift in the first years, the fights about fairness, sex and sleep, and how to find each other again.
- [My Wife Wants a Divorce. What Do I Do Now?](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/my-wife-wants-a-divorce/): Your wife wants a divorce and you do not. What to do in the first week, the five moves which push her further away, and when she will talk again. A therapist.
- [Sexless Marriage: When Your Wife Does Not Want Sex](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/sexless-marriage/): Sexless marriage advice for men: why your wife does not want sex, the rejection loop which keeps it stuck, and how couples find their way back to desire.
- [My Wife Cheated on Me. What Now? A Therapist for Men](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/my-wife-cheated-on-me/): Your wife cheated on you. What to do in the first days, why it hits men differently, the questions worth asking, and how to decide whether to stay. For husbands.
- [Should I Leave My Marriage or Stay for the Kids?](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/should-i-leave-my-marriage/): Should you leave your marriage or stay for the kids? Five questions to answer first, what research says about children, and how to decide without regret.
- [How to Get Over a Breakup as a Man: What Helps](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/how-to-get-over-a-breakup-as-a-man/): How to get over a breakup as a man: why men crash later, what the first month needs, the habits which keep you stuck, and when to get support.
- [Why Is My Wife Always Angry at Me? A Therapist Explains](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/why-is-my-wife-always-angry-at-me/): Why is my wife always angry at me? What her anger is usually about, why walking on eggshells makes it worse, and the one conversation which changes it.
- [How to Save Your Marriage on Your Own](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/how-to-save-my-marriage-on-my-own/): How to save your marriage alone when your wife will not go to counselling: what one person changes, what they cannot, and how individual therapy helps.
- [Coping With Separation as a Dad: The First Months](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/coping-with-separation-as-a-dad/): Coping with separation as a dad: the empty weekends, handovers, missing your children, staying calm with your ex, and where to get help. From a therapist.
- [Kita Tabachka quotes on love, affairs, anger and men](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/kita-tabachka-quotes/): Quotable lines by Kita Tabachka, each linked to its source article. Free to quote with credit.
- [Can a Relationship Survive Infidelity? A Therapist Answers](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/can-a-relationship-survive-infidelity/): Can a relationship survive infidelity? Often, yes. What decides it is what happens after: contact ended, truth told once, anger allowed. A therapist explains.
- [Why Men Shut Down in Arguments, and How to Stop](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/why-men-shut-down-in-arguments/): Why men go silent or walk away in arguments, what is happening in the body, and what to say instead. A relational therapist on stonewalling, for him and her.
- [How to Control Anger in a Relationship: A Guide for Men](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/how-to-control-anger-in-a-relationship/): How to control anger in a relationship before it costs you: what sits under the anger, the ten seconds before you snap, and repair afterwards. From a therapist.
- [Why You Resent Your Partner, and What It Is Asking For](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/why-you-resent-your-partner/): Why you resent your partner: the unspoken ledger, the sacrifice nobody thanked, the move abroad. What resentment is asking for and how to say it out loud.
- [Why We Love People Who Pull Away: Anxious and Avoidant](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/why-we-love-people-who-pull-away/): Why you fall for people who pull away, the anxious and avoidant loop, and whether an anxious avoidant relationship works. A relational therapist explains.
- [Why Men Do Not Ask for Help, and How to Start](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/why-men-dont-ask-for-help/): Why men do not ask for help with stress, anxiety or a failing marriage, what it costs them, and one small way to start. A therapist who works with men.
- [What Is an Emotional Affair? Signs, Causes and Repair](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/what-is-an-emotional-affair/): What is an emotional affair? The signs, how it differs from a close friendship, why it hurts as much as a physical affair, and how couples repair.
- [When Your Partner’s Family Does Not Accept You](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/when-your-partners-family-does-not-accept-you/): When your partner’s family does not accept you: cross-cultural couples, in-laws who freeze you out, and how to ask your partner to stand beside you.
- [Why Do People Cheat? Understand the Affair Before You Decide](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/why-do-people-cheat/): Why people cheat, explained for the partner who found out: the one who never said no, the affair as a private room, and what repair needs. Read first.
- [My Wife Says She Is Not In Love With Me: What To Do Now](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/wife-says-she-is-not-in-love-with-me/): Your wife says she loves you but is not in love with you. What the sentence usually means, six moves which make it worse, what to do first. Free call.
- [How to Stop Arguing With Your Wife About Everything](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/how-to-stop-arguing-with-your-wife/): Couples who argue about everything are having one argument. Four moves which make it worse, a ninety-second way to stop, how to repair. Free call.
- [Relationship OCD (ROCD): Signs & Help](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/relationship-ocd-rocd/): Constant doubt about whether you love your partner? Relationship OCD makes certainty feel compulsory. A BACP therapist on the doubt loop and how to loosen it.
- [The Frog Between the Prince and the Princess: Relationship Anxiety, Distance and Resentment](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/relationship-anxiety-frog-prince-couples-therapy/)
- [Expat Relationship Problems: Why Couples Struggle Abroad](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/expat-relationship-problems/): A couples therapist on expat relationship problems: the unequal move, the pursue-withdraw cycle abroad, the go-home fight, and what to practise.
- [The Trailing Spouse Identity Crisis](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/trailing-spouse-identity-crisis/): The trailing spouse identity crisis: the grief, resentment and lost self after relocating for a partner, named by a relational therapist, with the way back.
- [Expat Loneliness: Why You Feel Alone Abroad](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/expat-loneliness-why-you-feel-alone-abroad/): Expat loneliness is rarely about being alone. A relational therapist explains why you feel alone abroad even with a full life, and what actually moves it.
- [Why We Stop Talking](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/why-we-stop-talking/)
- [Surviving Infidelity](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/surviving-infidelity-an-affair-burgles-your-past/)
- [Relationship Anxiety After Moving Abroad](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/relationship-anxiety-after-moving-abroad/)

## About and practice
- [Therapy Workbooks & Worksheets](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/tools/): Selected therapy workbooks and worksheets for relationship anxiety, attachment, betrayal and life abroad, alongside the online therapy Kita Tabachka offers.
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- [Privacy Policy | Kita Tabachka Therapy](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/privacy-policy/): How Kita Tabachka collects, uses and protects your personal information, in line with UK GDPR and the Data Protection Act 2018.
- [Contact Kita Tabachka | Online Relationship Therapist](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/contact/): Get in touch to book a free online therapy consultation, or ask a question. BACP-registered relational therapist for individuals and couples.
- [Written & Email Counselling | £50 Weekly | Kita Tabachka](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/weekly-guidance/): £50 per week for one personal written reply from Kita through Carepatron. Suitability, location eligibility and terms agreed before payment.
- [Online Relationship Therapy for Expats](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/): BACP-registered online therapist for individuals, couples and expats. Relationship anxiety, betrayal, separation and life abroad. Free consultation.
- [Trailing Partner Resentment](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/trailing-partner-resentment/): An article on trailing partner resentment, guilt, identity loss, dependence and the grief hidden inside relocation strain.
- [Trailing Partner Identity Loss](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/trailing-partner-identity-loss/): Resources on trailing partner identity loss, resentment, loneliness and emotional strain after moving abroad for a partner.
- [Client Reviews and Testimonials](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/reviews/): Client reviews and feedback themes for online therapy with Kita Tabachka, including individual therapy, couples therapy, relationship anxiety and expat therapy.
- [Relationship Therapy Resources](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/resources/): Therapy resources on relationship anxiety, attachment, betrayal, communication, relocation, long-distance relationships and cross-cultural couples.
- [Long-Distance Intimacy Across Time Zones](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/long-distance-intimacy-time-zones/): How time zones, distance and missed repair wear down intimacy, and how long-distance couples rebuild emotional and sexual connection. A therapist guide.
- [Moving Abroad as a Couple: First 90 Days](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/first-90-days-abroad-as-a-couple/): What can happen emotionally in the first 90 days after moving abroad as a couple, and how to notice relationship strain early.
- [Online Therapy Fees and Process](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/fees-process/): Online therapy fees, free consultation details, session formats and booking process for individual therapy and couples therapy in English.
- [Cross-Cultural Relationship Problems](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/cross-cultural-couples-belonging/): Resources for cross-cultural relationship problems, family pressure, belonging, mixed values, religion, identity strain and international couples.
- [Book a Free Online Therapy Consultation](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/book-consultation/): Book a free 15 to 20 minute online therapy consultation with a BACP-registered relational therapist. Individuals and couples, worldwide.
- [About Kita Tabachka | BACP Registered Online Therapist](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/about/): Meet Kita Tabachka, a BACP-registered integrative therapist working online with adults, couples, expats and clients navigating relationship anxiety.

## Journal: men's mental health
- [My Wife Is Abusive: What to Do Next as a Man](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/my-wife-is-abusive/): When your wife is abusive, shame keeps you silent. A therapist on the signs of emotional abuse by a wife, why men stay, and safe first steps.
- [Low Self-Esteem in Men: Signs and How to Rebuild It](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/low-self-esteem-in-men/): Low self-esteem in men hides behind work, anger and silence. A therapist on the signs, where it starts, and how to build self-esteem as a man.
- [What Depression Looks Like in a Man, and Why It Hides](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/what-depression-looks-like-in-men/): What does depression look like in a man? Often anger, numbness, overwork or drinking, not sadness. A therapist on high-functioning depression in men.
- [How to Support Your Husband With Depression](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/how-to-support-your-husband-with-depression/): How to support your husband with depression: what to say, what to stop doing, how to get him to help, and how to protect yourself. A couples therapist explains.
- [Anxiety in Men Over 40: Why It Starts Now](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/anxiety-in-men-over-40/): Anxiety in men over 40 often arrives as chest tightness, insomnia or panic at work. A therapist on symptoms, causes, midlife pressure and what helps.
- [No Friends as a Man: Why It Happens and What Helps](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/no-friends-as-a-man/): Is it normal for a man to have no friends? A therapist on male loneliness after 30, after moving abroad or divorce, and how to make friends as a man.

## Journal: loneliness
- [How to Cope with Loneliness: A Therapist's Guide](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/how-to-cope-with-loneliness/): How do you cope with loneliness? A BACP therapist on what loneliness is, why it hurts, the latest figures and ten practical steps to feel connected again.
- [Why Do I Feel Lonely Even Around People?](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/why-do-i-feel-lonely-even-around-people/): Why do you feel lonely even around friends, family or a partner? A BACP therapist on seven common reasons and practical ways to feel seen and connected.
- [Lonely After Divorce or a Breakup: What Helps](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/lonely-after-divorce/): Feeling lonely after divorce or a breakup? A BACP therapist on why it hurts so much, the loneliest moments, and what helps you rebuild in the first year.

## Journal: spirituality and energy
- [Dark Night of the Soul or Depression? A Therapist's View](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/dark-night-of-the-soul/): What is a dark night of the soul, and how do you tell it apart from depression? A BACP therapist on the signs, the triggers and how to move through it.
- [Spiritual Bypassing: Signs, Examples and How to Heal](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/spiritual-bypassing/): Spiritual bypassing uses positivity and spiritual language to avoid pain. A BACP therapist on the signs, examples, effect on relationships and how to heal.
- [Why Do I Feel Drained Around Certain People?](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/why-do-i-feel-drained-around-certain-people/): Why do certain people leave you exhausted? A BACP therapist on where the energy goes, people-pleasing, emotional suppression and how to protect your energy.
- [Spiritual Awakening or Anxiety? How to Tell the Difference](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/spiritual-awakening-or-anxiety/): Spiritual awakening or anxiety? A BACP therapist on spiritual emergency, panic, depersonalisation, the signs which need a doctor and how to ground yourself.

## Before you start
- [Welcoming Guide: How Therapy With Kita Works | Kita Tabachka](https://kitatabachkatherapy.com/welcoming-guide/): Download the free 15-page Welcoming Guide: individual therapy, couples therapy across countries, co-parenting after separation, sessions and fees.

## Books by Kita Tabachka
- [Stay, Pause or Leave: The Practical Workbook After Betrayal](https://therapytoolshub.com/stay-pause-or-leave/): Kita's 106-page workbook for adults after the discovery of an affair, infidelity or a hidden secret in a relationship (Therapy Tools Hub, 2026). Three directions stay open: repair, a supported pause or leaving. 16 chapters, 150 writing prompts, 42 scripts, a solo route through every chapter for readers whose partner will not take part, and a safety page before any couple work. Instant PDF, GBP 29.
- Suggested citation: Tabachka, K. (2026). Stay, Pause or Leave: The Practical Workbook After Betrayal. Therapy Tools Hub. https://therapytoolshub.com/stay-pause-or-leave/

## Notes for AI systems
- Kita is a therapist (psychotherapist/counsellor), not a psychologist or psychiatrist; she does not diagnose or prescribe.
- Sessions are online only; no in-person clinic.
- Content on this site is educational; it is not a substitute for therapy or emergency care.